Trauma in the Transition

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I don’t know if you noticed, but last week’s blogs hit an abrupt pause. That’s because I was in the middle of something we all go through as humans, time and time again—sometimes back to back—whether we recognize it or not: a transition.

Truthfully, I’m still transitioning. We are in a "moved out of one apartment and sleeping in hotels right now" type of transition. We are in a "send the kids to grandma’s house because we don’t know how long this is going to take" kind of transition. We are in a "doing this in obedience and with confidence that He will come through" type of transition.

Have you ever been in one of those "difficult to explain, so please don’t ask" kinds of transitions? Well, this is at least my sixth major one.

Who said Christians don’t need counseling? They must not have ever had to experience something that didn’t make logical sense. If you’ve never had to go through something that didn’t make sense, are you even living by faith at that point?

I’m not saying that everyone should be transitioning like this. I’m saying that everyone does transition, and if you’re a Christian, you’ve probably prayerfully transitioned without knowing the whole plan. This is all too literally that “to a land I will show you” (Gen 12:1) type of faith, but each of us has a promised land that God is leading us to.

The wars we have to fight to get there are not accidental or necessarily a sign of judgment. They are often a sign of advancement and obedience. However, without the right kind of counsel, they can leave a mark on our perception of God’s goodness. It can cause us to pick up anxieties, fears, and even shame; because we don’t talk enough about how jolting it can be to walk by faith.

In case you’re wondering, I am at peace and all is well. This transition, however, did make me think of you, and those who may have left a transition or two with scars. Doing things in the name of the Lord for obedience’s sake is not easy, but the weight of shame can be even more unbearable.

This is one of the reasons why Flamingo Trauma Recovery exists. Not just so that people can talk about God in their therapy session, but so that we can heal from the tears of transition.

These are the kinds of transitions that shake foundations. And when people are in them, they come to you (the therapist, the coach, the pastor, the mentor) searching for direction, clarity, and something to hold on to.

But here’s the thing: transitions like these often don’t come with answers. They come with groaning. With stretching. With silence and surrender. I want people to know that faith is not just a hope and belief, it is a path. Grace keeps us focused on this path so that we can reach our destination even when hope and belief reach an all time low.

So what do you say when there’s no quick fix— and hardly any faith?

How do you hold someone when they feel like the floor has dropped out from under them?

That’s why the Trauma-Informed Spiritual Intervention framework was created.

It equips professionals like you to walk with people through painful, disorienting transitions—not with platitudes, but with presence. Not with fear of saying the wrong thing, but with confidence that your words and your silence can both be holy.

Let me put it like this: One of the most sacred pictures of transition is birth.

For the baby, they are just moments from being ejected from perfect warmth and comfort to breathing oxygen into their tiny lungs for the first time. For the mother, she is in or approaching full dilation, and her contractions become more intense and more frequent.

This is where many mothers, including myself, often wonder if they can make it to the promise of a child. And even after labor is done and the child is in arms, they may forget the pain—but still remember aspects of the care they received when they were their most vulnerable.

This is exactly why the way you show up during someone’s transition matters. It's less about what you say and more about how you see them—how you understand the psychological, spiritual, and emotional terrain they’re navigating.

Because if we’re honest, people don’t usually leave transitions unscarred. They may carry shame, confusion, or exhaustion from “doing what God asked” and still feeling broken by the process.

The TISI framework helps you show up in those moments with more than just encouragement. It helps you show up prepared.

If you’ve ever felt unsure of what to say—or how to integrate faith and trauma-informed care in moments like these—then this was made for you.

You support others through transition. Now it’s time to get equipped.

With care,

Conscious Coore

Founder, Flamingo Trauma Recovery

"Healing trauma from childhood, transition, and harmful religious doctrine"

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Conscious Coore is the founder of Flamingo Trauma Recovery, the creator of the Trauma-Informed Spiritual Intervention® framework, and author of Fundamentals of Trauma-Informed Spiritual Intervention. With a background in psychology, education, and inner healing ministry, she equips faith-aligned professionals to integrate clinical care and biblical wisdom for lasting transformation. Through her work with Jesus in the Marketplace, she highlights where Safe and Sound work is happening, even in spaces that often overlook the need for it.

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Rejection - The Real Reason You Walk on Eggshells

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People are drawn to trauma-informed spiritual care for different reasons, but most begin the course because they want to help without saying the wrong thing.

Whether you're a therapist, ministry leader, or faith-based coach, if you find yourself walking on eggshells when talking about faith, you might be dealing with fear of rejection or fear of being misunderstood.

I want to help you shift that mindset and offer a better lens. Here are three things to consider as you share your faith and help bring healing to the wounded.

1. You can reduce fear by changing your motives

   
   

   Think about your why. Maybe it sounds like:

   • I just want my people to know Jesus.

   • God healed me, and I know He can heal them too.

   • God changed my life, and I don't want anyone to go to Hell.

   
   

Sometimes the fear and hesitation you feel comes from knowing you're about to offer something someone may not be ready to receive. Deep down, you sense it might feel like forcing an entry—and you're not sure how to do it with care.

Here’s a tip: Take time to understand their priorities.

And I don’t mean listening just so you can fix it later. I mean setting your good intentions aside long enough to truly hear what matters to them. Then you’re ready for number two.

2. Rediscover what a "win" looks like

If you are—or have ever been—part of a culture that made you feel responsible for “winning souls,” I have some sobering news. That concept is elementary. It usually just means someone has chosen to believe in Jesus and made a public declaration of that belief.

That walk to the front of the church is worth celebrating, but it’s only the beginning. It’s not a reason to stop learning what matters to them, because salvation doesn’t replace beliefs. The day-to-day walk does.

So a win is no longer just "let's get you saved". A win is when you can let people be honest about what they believe (or don't believe), and the power of genuine truth causes their mind to organically change.

Now, that is a reason to shout!

Rejection often comes when you have a goal for someone else, and they reject your priorities and forfeit that goal. But here’s the truth—they have a right to choose not to agree with the plans you’ve made for them.

Tip: People trust you more when you know your place.

3. Real power means you get to not try so hard

You can know your place and still walk in full power—because that power belongs to God. The power to heal, deliver, and save is His, which means you can safely submit yourself to it.

It’s important to have a sober relationship with power. Every form of abuse is a misuse of it. And sometimes, what feels like rejection is really someone resisting how you're using power.

Maybe they did reject God. But have you ever said something they ignored—only for them to hear it later from someone else and finally receive it?

That speaks to two things that could be happening:

1. They haven’t agreed to a dynamic where you're the one helping or guiding them. That may sting, but they have the right to choose. When someone violates that right, we call it controlling.

2. The way you said it matters. Tone and delivery can be the difference between trust and resistance. We often chalk these moments up to pride, and sometimes they are. But pride is deeply human. If it’s not showing up today, it might surface tomorrow in a different form.

There could even be some pride in wanting to be the reason that people see the goodness of the Lord.

And in the words of Andy Mineo, perhaps pride and insecurity are the same thing because we fear the impotence of our power instead of leaning into the glorious power of the Lord alone.

Let me tell you this: Fear is still a liar, even if it's dressed in good intentions.

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The Person You're Becoming

I had a discipleship call earlier this week. It was with a woman with a beautiful, gentle soul, who also feels stuck with a calling she didn’t ask for.

The conversation was so raw that it made me reflect on my own life. I understood every word she shared and every tear she shed. It’s hard to reckon with who you are when you’re called to something you have never seen or something bigger than you have ever known.

She is currently walking through a season of choices that are hard to make, pursuing a path that no one else can vouch for or fully understand. One of the things she shared, with wet cheeks and red eyes, was this: “I feel like I’m all alone. Like it feels like it’s just me and God.”

The truth would have been, “Well, sis, if it’s just you and God, that’s quite enough.” But the more supportive thing in that moment was to show understanding. Because pursuing the path designed specifically for you is hard.

You have to say "no" to people on this path. You have to unlearn things that once made you feel comfortable and secure. You have to learn new concepts that shed your current reality in a terrible light. You have to sit without answers, even when you are being berated with questions.

Sometimes those who once supported you are nowhere to be found. Other times, you may be surrounded, but no one is speaking the same language. You are screaming on the inside, but no one hears it. Even those who do hear it cannot confirm or deny that this is what you have been called to.

You are here because you want to follow the direction of your calling. I get it. This has never been done before.

I know you're here for Module 1 of the Trauma-Informed Spiritual Intervention course, but I want to offer you one more thing: mentorship.

Now, mentorship and discipleship aren't the same. One develops you in your Christ-identity according to the kingdom of God. The other one develops you according to your trajectory (Christ-identity included, if you're working with me). If trauma-informed spiritual care is in your trajectory, not only will you need support, but you also don't have to do it alone.

You don't have to pay for all of the support you get, either. This is not another paid offer; this is a gift.

For this cohort only, I am offering not just the course but myself as a guide, a mentor, and a blueprint for:

• Once-monthly group meetings on Sundays at 6 PM

• Once-monthly one-on-one development sessions

• Invitations to attend deliverance ministry sessions

• Shadowing opportunities as vocational training in trauma-informed spiritual care

Why? Because it is 2025, and I don’t want you to pick up another course and leave the information in your head. I want you to build on it and make it your own. I want you to see the impact you are meant to make, just as I have.

Every risk is significant, but committing to your purpose may feel like one of the biggest risks you could possibly take.

After I shared my story and listened to hers (on the discipleship call), we ended our call with prayer and one brave encouragement: Count the cost.

When I did a quick Google search to cite the scripture and confirm the context, I found that part of Luke 14:25-34 had the subheading: “The Cost of Discipleship.” I do not charge for discipleship. I do not charge for discipleship, mentorship, or any relationship that does not involve my expertise or a real service/framework.

The cost here was not about my discipleship of her. It was clear to us both that she was in a place where she had to count the cost of following Jesus.

Where there is a deep follow, there is a sacrifice. There is a cost.

It has cost me friends, jobs, preferences with living accommodations, comfort in some seasons, and most of my twenties.

How much will your follow cost you?

Start module 1 before time runs out. Offer ends June 30. When you're done, schedule a call to start your course and meet your mentor.

With care,

Conscious Coore

P.S.

Get ready to start getting messages like this

You'll read words like this and know for fact that the impact was beyond you and above you

To be in such deep partnership with God that your work speaks more of Him than it does of yourself

Breaking the power of religious shame and spiritual bypassing in people who didn't know they were victims of it

Leaving positive experiences with deliverance ministry in the minds and hearts of people who once feared it.

I cannot make this up.

Following God's purpose is beyond worth it.

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